"Mirror, Mirror on the Wall": The Law of Correspondence

I am a huge advocate of manifesting, co-creating your life through intention and feeling. However, there are other universal laws which need to be taken into account, ones that are often overlooked when we get into the attitude of "I want". We expect the outer world to come to us, without considering how our inner world reflects that. We make lists, create vision boards, ask and believe we will receive. Still, we are not receiving what we want. Is it our belief system? Did we do something wrong? It may be that you are not reflecting into the world what it is you want. Rather, your inner world is one that cannot possibly attract what you want in correspondence with the Law of Attraction. When our inner world matches our outer world, we will attract just what we desire: This is the Law of Correspondence.

A friend of mine reminded me of this universal law recently and I had forgotten of its importance. I think when one approaches this law, it can be so easy to ask, "What came first? The chicken or the egg?" You blame yourself for what you attract, rather than taking accountability for healing your inner turmoil and focusing on how to become what you want to attract. The Law of Attraction has great promise, but it also coincides with other universal laws. You simply cannot expect the outer world to bring you a new car, a new relationship, a new career, if that is not what you are reflecting from your inner world. Often, this is a case where doing inner work is required to heal beliefs, attitudes, rituals and feelings, in order to create the mirror of what you want to attract. This is why, I believe, it is so easy to manifest a free cup of coffee. As long as you believe it is true, it'll happen. You reflect outward the belief "I have a free cup of coffee." A relationship, on the other hand, requires you to mirror what you want in a partner in order to attract a particular partner. If you are hiding behind insecurities, rest assured you will attract a partner who will rock those beliefs and magnify them.

Over the past year, my security has been shaken. I do see it as a lesson for growth, but for awhile I got into victim thinking that this was all happening to me. I did not feel secure and life reflected back to me, in the most obvious way, that I was not secure. I do not blame myself for attracting job loss, a boyfriend who has challenged my security, and for getting cancer (among other things) but I do recognize that my inner world screams, "I am not safe!". I have rituals and beliefs I used to keep myself safe from being physically and emotionally harmed.

When it comes to attracting anything into your world, the best bet is to focus on how or who you want to be in this situation. Leave the "other guy" out of it. Don't focus on having a boss who is level headed or a boyfriend who isn't angry. Rather, focus on being level headed yourself and calm in the face of an angry boyfriend. This way you are co-creating changes in your inner world. This alone might not do the trick, but it is a step in the right direction, along with working with a trusted coach, friend, counselor or advisor, to become the mirror of what you want to attract into your world.