I am a huge advocate of manifesting, co-creating your life through intention and feeling. However, there are other universal laws which need to be taken into account, ones that are often overlooked when we get into the attitude of "I want". We expect the outer world to come to us, without considering how our inner world reflects that. We make lists, create vision boards, ask and believe we will receive. Still, we are not receiving what we want. Is it our belief system? Did we do something wrong? It may be that you are not reflecting into the world what it is you want. Rather, your inner world is one that cannot possibly attract what you want in correspondence with the Law of Attraction. When our inner world matches our outer world, we will attract just what we desire: This is the Law of Correspondence.
A friend of mine reminded me of this universal law recently and I had forgotten of its importance. I think when one approaches this law, it can be so easy to ask, "What came first? The chicken or the egg?" You blame yourself for what you attract, rather than taking accountability for healing your inner turmoil and focusing on how to become what you want to attract. The Law of Attraction has great promise, but it also coincides with other universal laws. You simply cannot expect the outer world to bring you a new car, a new relationship, a new career, if that is not what you are reflecting from your inner world. Often, this is a case where doing inner work is required to heal beliefs, attitudes, rituals and feelings, in order to create the mirror of what you want to attract. This is why, I believe, it is so easy to manifest a free cup of coffee. As long as you believe it is true, it'll happen. You reflect outward the belief "I have a free cup of coffee." A relationship, on the other hand, requires you to mirror what you want in a partner in order to attract a particular partner. If you are hiding behind insecurities, rest assured you will attract a partner who will rock those beliefs and magnify them.
Over the past year, my security has been shaken. I do see it as a lesson for growth, but for awhile I got into victim thinking that this was all happening to me. I did not feel secure and life reflected back to me, in the most obvious way, that I was not secure. I do not blame myself for attracting job loss, a boyfriend who has challenged my security, and for getting cancer (among other things) but I do recognize that my inner world screams, "I am not safe!". I have rituals and beliefs I used to keep myself safe from being physically and emotionally harmed.
When it comes to attracting anything into your world, the best bet is to focus on how or who you want to be in this situation. Leave the "other guy" out of it. Don't focus on having a boss who is level headed or a boyfriend who isn't angry. Rather, focus on being level headed yourself and calm in the face of an angry boyfriend. This way you are co-creating changes in your inner world. This alone might not do the trick, but it is a step in the right direction, along with working with a trusted coach, friend, counselor or advisor, to become the mirror of what you want to attract into your world.
Monday, July 26, 2010
Wash, Rinse, Repeat
Over the course of the past year, I have been presented with many pitfalls. Life has been one hardship after the next, sprinkled with some happy moments. I am not a victim here--Life happens and it simply is what it is. What I recognize from this past year is a continuation of a lesson that has been presented to me all my life: the fear of insecurity. I don't mean this in a confidence sense, but in many ways my world has been made less-than-secure, leaving me to doubt if I will ever be safe again.
I grew up in a household with an abusive mother. I never felt safe, in the basic of all relationships, the one between a mother and child. As I continued to grow, I can recognize many times in which I never felt safe. I am even jumpy when I ride in a car because I have been in numerous auto accidents. In this past year, my security has been threatened by acts of infidelity by my boyfriend, the loss of my scientific funding and through my illness. I had an epiphany last night about how I am challenged, many times over, to feel safe in my skin, safe in this world. It is a recurring theme, a lesson that continues to be presented to me.
Here is the thing about lessons: You will keep getting them hurled at you until you move beyond the hurdle. Even if you transcend one aspect of the lesson, life will continue to throw "stuff" at you until you advance to another level. It reminds me of a video game, with rewards but also increasing challenges as we move to higher levels.
One of my favorite authors says that life is soul school. It's true! We are always presented with a series of smaller lessons on a day to day basis which challenge our beliefs about love, compassion, forgiveness and the like. However, we are also presented with increasing lessons in particular areas because we chose them. That's right--We chose to come here to have experiences, which allow us to learn and grow in particular areas whether your perception of those experiences are positive or negative. Remember, life is not about "good or bad". As you learn your lessons, more will be hurled your way. It never stops and the best way to handle it is with grace. Grace accepts that life happens, not to us, but that it just happens. Grace says, "Oh, isn't that interesting?" not "Why is this happening to me?" Grace is open to a gift in all situations and it takes that gift and rejoices in it, even if is not discovered for months or years. A shift in perception can make a world of a difference when it comes to navigating through the negative. I have found the quicker we fall into grace, the quicker we move forward... maybe to another lesson, but certainly it is always for our highest good.
Thankfully, life threw all of this at me at once, so that I can finally see the "wash, rinse, repeat" cycle. What recurring themes do you see in the hardships that life throws at you? Do you challenge intimacy? Do you worry about money? Do you feel unsafe, unloved, abandoned, fearful? Where have you experienced loss? Annoyance? Pain? Struggles?
Whatever rocks you, rest assured that is your lesson.
I grew up in a household with an abusive mother. I never felt safe, in the basic of all relationships, the one between a mother and child. As I continued to grow, I can recognize many times in which I never felt safe. I am even jumpy when I ride in a car because I have been in numerous auto accidents. In this past year, my security has been threatened by acts of infidelity by my boyfriend, the loss of my scientific funding and through my illness. I had an epiphany last night about how I am challenged, many times over, to feel safe in my skin, safe in this world. It is a recurring theme, a lesson that continues to be presented to me.
Here is the thing about lessons: You will keep getting them hurled at you until you move beyond the hurdle. Even if you transcend one aspect of the lesson, life will continue to throw "stuff" at you until you advance to another level. It reminds me of a video game, with rewards but also increasing challenges as we move to higher levels.
One of my favorite authors says that life is soul school. It's true! We are always presented with a series of smaller lessons on a day to day basis which challenge our beliefs about love, compassion, forgiveness and the like. However, we are also presented with increasing lessons in particular areas because we chose them. That's right--We chose to come here to have experiences, which allow us to learn and grow in particular areas whether your perception of those experiences are positive or negative. Remember, life is not about "good or bad". As you learn your lessons, more will be hurled your way. It never stops and the best way to handle it is with grace. Grace accepts that life happens, not to us, but that it just happens. Grace says, "Oh, isn't that interesting?" not "Why is this happening to me?" Grace is open to a gift in all situations and it takes that gift and rejoices in it, even if is not discovered for months or years. A shift in perception can make a world of a difference when it comes to navigating through the negative. I have found the quicker we fall into grace, the quicker we move forward... maybe to another lesson, but certainly it is always for our highest good.
Thankfully, life threw all of this at me at once, so that I can finally see the "wash, rinse, repeat" cycle. What recurring themes do you see in the hardships that life throws at you? Do you challenge intimacy? Do you worry about money? Do you feel unsafe, unloved, abandoned, fearful? Where have you experienced loss? Annoyance? Pain? Struggles?
Whatever rocks you, rest assured that is your lesson.
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