I know, WOW! What does that mean??? LOL I've studied the Universal Laws for years and even as a scientist I get lost in the gobbly goop of explanations. Simply put: Energy is constantly moving, change is inevitable and we have the ability, through intent and action, to change the energy in our experience. Through choosing higher vibrations of love and compassion, for example, we have the ability to heal and transmute lower vibrations. It's all about what you invite into your space.
Recent events in my life have brought to my attention the way in which we invite, or allow, certain energies and experiences into our reality. I went on a vacation alone a few weeks ago and manifested a free hotel upgrade, free good and drinks and good company at a local hangout. The vacation itself was something I manifested--inexpensive and luxurious. I had a great time, but what stuck out the most from my experience was how I allowed certain things to enter into my reality. For example, as I was traveling to the local hangout, I decided that I would have fun no matter what, good people would talk to me, I would make friends, I simply would not allow anything but the positive into my space. If this meant I spent my time alone, then so be it. I was okay with either outcome, of course, but what happened was I sat in the right place at the right time, befriended the owner of the place and some staff and ended up eating and drinking for free the entire night. I had wonderful conversation with people I felt very connected to. I looked around the hangout, realizing there were a number of people in there who easily could have sat by me, but it was my allowance of a positive experience that attracted just that into my reality.
Drama, arguments, fights, saddness, hostility... These are all things we allow into our reality. Think of these negative feelings like the vampire at the door. Would you invite him to dinner? We always have a choice to use higher vibrations--love, peace, compassion, forgiveness, etc--to transmute these lower vibrations into higher ones. We always have a choice of what enters into our reality.
This gets trickier when another person or people are involved. You do not want to override their free will. Rather, present with your energy what you will allow into your space, not from a place of fear but from a place of love and compassion. Allow that person the ability to be angry but do not allow it to affect you in your space. Allow another person to fail, but not in a way that that harms you. Allow people the grace to go through their crap, but do not allow it to drag you down. Allowing another person the freedom to go through their "stuff" comes from the ultimate place of trust and acceptance. By setting up a boundary of what you allow, you are also loving yourself. It's a win-win situation.
Another component of this law is that higher vibrations will always transmute (change or heal) the lower vibrations. Scientifically, this makes sense. Think of it this way: If a ball is bouncing quickly--think of this as love-- and it bumps into a ball that is slow moving--think of this as fear or anger--the higher vibrating ball will cause the lower vibrating ball to accelerate. If you have a hard time visualizing, give it a try. :) By choosing to live at a higher vibration you are not only healing yourself, you are healing others. We are all connected, like beads on a string, and the shift of one person will impact all of us. Consider it your gift to humanity to choose love, kindness and compassion.
Be a source of love and light and allow your energy to heal yourself and others. Stop inviting negative emotions, people and experiences into your world. Grant others the grace to make their mistakes, live their lives and learn their lessons. Send out love and acceptance and it will come back.
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
Monday, July 26, 2010
"Mirror, Mirror on the Wall": The Law of Correspondence
I am a huge advocate of manifesting, co-creating your life through intention and feeling. However, there are other universal laws which need to be taken into account, ones that are often overlooked when we get into the attitude of "I want". We expect the outer world to come to us, without considering how our inner world reflects that. We make lists, create vision boards, ask and believe we will receive. Still, we are not receiving what we want. Is it our belief system? Did we do something wrong? It may be that you are not reflecting into the world what it is you want. Rather, your inner world is one that cannot possibly attract what you want in correspondence with the Law of Attraction. When our inner world matches our outer world, we will attract just what we desire: This is the Law of Correspondence.
A friend of mine reminded me of this universal law recently and I had forgotten of its importance. I think when one approaches this law, it can be so easy to ask, "What came first? The chicken or the egg?" You blame yourself for what you attract, rather than taking accountability for healing your inner turmoil and focusing on how to become what you want to attract. The Law of Attraction has great promise, but it also coincides with other universal laws. You simply cannot expect the outer world to bring you a new car, a new relationship, a new career, if that is not what you are reflecting from your inner world. Often, this is a case where doing inner work is required to heal beliefs, attitudes, rituals and feelings, in order to create the mirror of what you want to attract. This is why, I believe, it is so easy to manifest a free cup of coffee. As long as you believe it is true, it'll happen. You reflect outward the belief "I have a free cup of coffee." A relationship, on the other hand, requires you to mirror what you want in a partner in order to attract a particular partner. If you are hiding behind insecurities, rest assured you will attract a partner who will rock those beliefs and magnify them.
Over the past year, my security has been shaken. I do see it as a lesson for growth, but for awhile I got into victim thinking that this was all happening to me. I did not feel secure and life reflected back to me, in the most obvious way, that I was not secure. I do not blame myself for attracting job loss, a boyfriend who has challenged my security, and for getting cancer (among other things) but I do recognize that my inner world screams, "I am not safe!". I have rituals and beliefs I used to keep myself safe from being physically and emotionally harmed.
When it comes to attracting anything into your world, the best bet is to focus on how or who you want to be in this situation. Leave the "other guy" out of it. Don't focus on having a boss who is level headed or a boyfriend who isn't angry. Rather, focus on being level headed yourself and calm in the face of an angry boyfriend. This way you are co-creating changes in your inner world. This alone might not do the trick, but it is a step in the right direction, along with working with a trusted coach, friend, counselor or advisor, to become the mirror of what you want to attract into your world.
A friend of mine reminded me of this universal law recently and I had forgotten of its importance. I think when one approaches this law, it can be so easy to ask, "What came first? The chicken or the egg?" You blame yourself for what you attract, rather than taking accountability for healing your inner turmoil and focusing on how to become what you want to attract. The Law of Attraction has great promise, but it also coincides with other universal laws. You simply cannot expect the outer world to bring you a new car, a new relationship, a new career, if that is not what you are reflecting from your inner world. Often, this is a case where doing inner work is required to heal beliefs, attitudes, rituals and feelings, in order to create the mirror of what you want to attract. This is why, I believe, it is so easy to manifest a free cup of coffee. As long as you believe it is true, it'll happen. You reflect outward the belief "I have a free cup of coffee." A relationship, on the other hand, requires you to mirror what you want in a partner in order to attract a particular partner. If you are hiding behind insecurities, rest assured you will attract a partner who will rock those beliefs and magnify them.
Over the past year, my security has been shaken. I do see it as a lesson for growth, but for awhile I got into victim thinking that this was all happening to me. I did not feel secure and life reflected back to me, in the most obvious way, that I was not secure. I do not blame myself for attracting job loss, a boyfriend who has challenged my security, and for getting cancer (among other things) but I do recognize that my inner world screams, "I am not safe!". I have rituals and beliefs I used to keep myself safe from being physically and emotionally harmed.
When it comes to attracting anything into your world, the best bet is to focus on how or who you want to be in this situation. Leave the "other guy" out of it. Don't focus on having a boss who is level headed or a boyfriend who isn't angry. Rather, focus on being level headed yourself and calm in the face of an angry boyfriend. This way you are co-creating changes in your inner world. This alone might not do the trick, but it is a step in the right direction, along with working with a trusted coach, friend, counselor or advisor, to become the mirror of what you want to attract into your world.
Wash, Rinse, Repeat
Over the course of the past year, I have been presented with many pitfalls. Life has been one hardship after the next, sprinkled with some happy moments. I am not a victim here--Life happens and it simply is what it is. What I recognize from this past year is a continuation of a lesson that has been presented to me all my life: the fear of insecurity. I don't mean this in a confidence sense, but in many ways my world has been made less-than-secure, leaving me to doubt if I will ever be safe again.
I grew up in a household with an abusive mother. I never felt safe, in the basic of all relationships, the one between a mother and child. As I continued to grow, I can recognize many times in which I never felt safe. I am even jumpy when I ride in a car because I have been in numerous auto accidents. In this past year, my security has been threatened by acts of infidelity by my boyfriend, the loss of my scientific funding and through my illness. I had an epiphany last night about how I am challenged, many times over, to feel safe in my skin, safe in this world. It is a recurring theme, a lesson that continues to be presented to me.
Here is the thing about lessons: You will keep getting them hurled at you until you move beyond the hurdle. Even if you transcend one aspect of the lesson, life will continue to throw "stuff" at you until you advance to another level. It reminds me of a video game, with rewards but also increasing challenges as we move to higher levels.
One of my favorite authors says that life is soul school. It's true! We are always presented with a series of smaller lessons on a day to day basis which challenge our beliefs about love, compassion, forgiveness and the like. However, we are also presented with increasing lessons in particular areas because we chose them. That's right--We chose to come here to have experiences, which allow us to learn and grow in particular areas whether your perception of those experiences are positive or negative. Remember, life is not about "good or bad". As you learn your lessons, more will be hurled your way. It never stops and the best way to handle it is with grace. Grace accepts that life happens, not to us, but that it just happens. Grace says, "Oh, isn't that interesting?" not "Why is this happening to me?" Grace is open to a gift in all situations and it takes that gift and rejoices in it, even if is not discovered for months or years. A shift in perception can make a world of a difference when it comes to navigating through the negative. I have found the quicker we fall into grace, the quicker we move forward... maybe to another lesson, but certainly it is always for our highest good.
Thankfully, life threw all of this at me at once, so that I can finally see the "wash, rinse, repeat" cycle. What recurring themes do you see in the hardships that life throws at you? Do you challenge intimacy? Do you worry about money? Do you feel unsafe, unloved, abandoned, fearful? Where have you experienced loss? Annoyance? Pain? Struggles?
Whatever rocks you, rest assured that is your lesson.
I grew up in a household with an abusive mother. I never felt safe, in the basic of all relationships, the one between a mother and child. As I continued to grow, I can recognize many times in which I never felt safe. I am even jumpy when I ride in a car because I have been in numerous auto accidents. In this past year, my security has been threatened by acts of infidelity by my boyfriend, the loss of my scientific funding and through my illness. I had an epiphany last night about how I am challenged, many times over, to feel safe in my skin, safe in this world. It is a recurring theme, a lesson that continues to be presented to me.
Here is the thing about lessons: You will keep getting them hurled at you until you move beyond the hurdle. Even if you transcend one aspect of the lesson, life will continue to throw "stuff" at you until you advance to another level. It reminds me of a video game, with rewards but also increasing challenges as we move to higher levels.
One of my favorite authors says that life is soul school. It's true! We are always presented with a series of smaller lessons on a day to day basis which challenge our beliefs about love, compassion, forgiveness and the like. However, we are also presented with increasing lessons in particular areas because we chose them. That's right--We chose to come here to have experiences, which allow us to learn and grow in particular areas whether your perception of those experiences are positive or negative. Remember, life is not about "good or bad". As you learn your lessons, more will be hurled your way. It never stops and the best way to handle it is with grace. Grace accepts that life happens, not to us, but that it just happens. Grace says, "Oh, isn't that interesting?" not "Why is this happening to me?" Grace is open to a gift in all situations and it takes that gift and rejoices in it, even if is not discovered for months or years. A shift in perception can make a world of a difference when it comes to navigating through the negative. I have found the quicker we fall into grace, the quicker we move forward... maybe to another lesson, but certainly it is always for our highest good.
Thankfully, life threw all of this at me at once, so that I can finally see the "wash, rinse, repeat" cycle. What recurring themes do you see in the hardships that life throws at you? Do you challenge intimacy? Do you worry about money? Do you feel unsafe, unloved, abandoned, fearful? Where have you experienced loss? Annoyance? Pain? Struggles?
Whatever rocks you, rest assured that is your lesson.
Monday, March 15, 2010
Reality Check: Life and Cancer Happen
I've been away awhile, handling my own life. For those of you who do not know, I was diagnosed with breast cancer in December and my life between that time and now has been, well, a mix of chaos and drugs. I had a mastectomy at the end of January and am currently "no evidence of disease" with no further treatment required. I'm about as lucky as one can get with cancer.
Most would call me insane for saying that breast cancer was the best thing that could have happened to me, but it is. It gave me a strong and solid reality check. I used to believe that good things happened to good people, that justice is always done (karma) and that as long as you took care of yourself and believed in health, you'd live a long and healthy life. Boy, those things have shifted. I now believe: good health is wasted on the healthy, justice will not be done unless you take matters into your own hands and that good does not always prevail.
Pretty darn negative, huh? Well, not really. It's reality. We simply will not always get what we want., sometimes karma takes time--lifetimes--to come around and even if you do everything "right", you can still be handed a heaping pile of crap on a plate. What you CAN do is more important. You CAN decide. Decide to not let the sh*t storm blow over your sailing ship. Decide to not give a crap if what's his face didn't call. Decide to take steps in living your life as it is right now, enjoying it as it is.
I always thought I had a clear image of what I wanted in my life until I got cancer. When someone hands you the death card, it becomes evident what you want. I realize now how many times I dismissed what was truly important to me. Underneath the surface of "this is what I should do with my life" were glimmers of feelings of what I truly wanted. I've never felt more clear than I do right now about my career, my lifestyle, what type of relationship/family that I want. The truth is: Even if those things don't happen, I will be OK!
So let me ask you: Are you hiding behind another person's idea of what your life should be? What do you really want for yourself?
I also realized who was important to me. I was shocked by the lack of support I received from my own mother. She made my surgery about her and milked it for all it was worth. My father, brother and boyfriend were my main caretakers. I can't fault my mother for how she behaved, she was probably scared. Even if she wasn't, it is what it is and nothing I do nor think is gonna change that. Which brings me to another reality check: Your past only haunts you if you allow it. Yup! That's right. When you are wronged by others, when something doesn't go as planned, DO something to empower yourself about the situation. Don't piss and moan about how so-an-so didn't do x, y, and z. Move forward.
So let me ask you: Who/what has held you in the past? Are you willing to let it go?
Bad days? Yup! I've had them. You will too. The key is to not stay stuck in them. If today was my last day on Earth the last way I'd wanna spend it is on the couch moping about something. It's okay to have these feelings but once they become all consuming, you've got a problem. He didn't call? So what, take a bath. You didn't land the job of your dreams? So what, go out with your friends. Celebrate LIFE! We spend so much time mourning over things we cannot change, people we cannot change. While letting go is important, it's also equally important to celebrate the life you have right now.
So let me ask you: If today was your last day alive, how would you spend it? With who?
Sh*t happens. Life will not always be rainbows. However, you ALWAYS have power in how you respond and react to any of life's lemons. The power of decision cannot be taken away. Unless, of course, you choose to give it away. Which brings me to my final reality check: The power of decision is wasted on those who choose not to use it, who instead hand it over to a friend, a lover, a spouse, a situation, even cancer...
So let me ask you: Who/what is making your decisions? Who/what has your power?
Most would call me insane for saying that breast cancer was the best thing that could have happened to me, but it is. It gave me a strong and solid reality check. I used to believe that good things happened to good people, that justice is always done (karma) and that as long as you took care of yourself and believed in health, you'd live a long and healthy life. Boy, those things have shifted. I now believe: good health is wasted on the healthy, justice will not be done unless you take matters into your own hands and that good does not always prevail.
Pretty darn negative, huh? Well, not really. It's reality. We simply will not always get what we want., sometimes karma takes time--lifetimes--to come around and even if you do everything "right", you can still be handed a heaping pile of crap on a plate. What you CAN do is more important. You CAN decide. Decide to not let the sh*t storm blow over your sailing ship. Decide to not give a crap if what's his face didn't call. Decide to take steps in living your life as it is right now, enjoying it as it is.
I always thought I had a clear image of what I wanted in my life until I got cancer. When someone hands you the death card, it becomes evident what you want. I realize now how many times I dismissed what was truly important to me. Underneath the surface of "this is what I should do with my life" were glimmers of feelings of what I truly wanted. I've never felt more clear than I do right now about my career, my lifestyle, what type of relationship/family that I want. The truth is: Even if those things don't happen, I will be OK!
So let me ask you: Are you hiding behind another person's idea of what your life should be? What do you really want for yourself?
I also realized who was important to me. I was shocked by the lack of support I received from my own mother. She made my surgery about her and milked it for all it was worth. My father, brother and boyfriend were my main caretakers. I can't fault my mother for how she behaved, she was probably scared. Even if she wasn't, it is what it is and nothing I do nor think is gonna change that. Which brings me to another reality check: Your past only haunts you if you allow it. Yup! That's right. When you are wronged by others, when something doesn't go as planned, DO something to empower yourself about the situation. Don't piss and moan about how so-an-so didn't do x, y, and z. Move forward.
So let me ask you: Who/what has held you in the past? Are you willing to let it go?
Bad days? Yup! I've had them. You will too. The key is to not stay stuck in them. If today was my last day on Earth the last way I'd wanna spend it is on the couch moping about something. It's okay to have these feelings but once they become all consuming, you've got a problem. He didn't call? So what, take a bath. You didn't land the job of your dreams? So what, go out with your friends. Celebrate LIFE! We spend so much time mourning over things we cannot change, people we cannot change. While letting go is important, it's also equally important to celebrate the life you have right now.
So let me ask you: If today was your last day alive, how would you spend it? With who?
Sh*t happens. Life will not always be rainbows. However, you ALWAYS have power in how you respond and react to any of life's lemons. The power of decision cannot be taken away. Unless, of course, you choose to give it away. Which brings me to my final reality check: The power of decision is wasted on those who choose not to use it, who instead hand it over to a friend, a lover, a spouse, a situation, even cancer...
So let me ask you: Who/what is making your decisions? Who/what has your power?
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