Who has your power????

Dis-empowerment. This occurs when we worry about what another person is feeling, thinking or doing. Rather than focus on "me", we dump all of our energy into a situation we cannot control. Isn't that silly? When you think about it--can you really ever truly control another? NO! So, why dump all of your energy into that matter? It doesn't benefit you in the least bit to focus outside of yourself. Instead, it just puts you in a position where you define yourself by others' feelings or actions. Common scenarios of this include:

* Why hasn't he/she called?
* How does he/she feel about me?
* I wonder if I do ____ if it will cause him/her to do ______.
* How can I make him/her love me?

Of course, the above are just a few common scenarios where a person so easily hands over their personal power. Your energy is best conserved for you and your situation. Rather than moping about something you cannot control, buck up! Empower yourself! If you are not happy with your current situation, figure out why. Are you listening to others' thoughts and feelings about what you should do? Do you seek consistent validation from others so that you can feel good about yourself? Are your dreams defined by what another person thinks you should do? Where are you in this equation? Do you even exist? Or are you just a robot that lives by the program of another's thoughts and feelings?

Self-esteem and acceptance issues are the number one reason we find ourselves in this place of "need". We are not confident in our judgment. We lack the faith that no matter what happens, we will be provided for in every way. It's human to have these feelings every now and then, but it's debilitating to your spirit to dwell on this sad state of affairs. Let it go, realize you are the only person worth your energy and focus.

People, situations and experiences will come and go from your life. You remove all of that and you still exist. Who are you? What are your dreams? What makes you happy? What is true to you? The next time someone hands you a seed of doubt, look that person, or the situation, in the eyes and say, "I respect you but this feels true to me."